Unfortunately, many of us had or have various reasons/excuses for why we’re no longer pursing our dream(s) (which I was also once guilty of). However, I believe these are self-limitations we convince ourselves because it’s easier to sit idle, then to fight for our wildest dream(s). But, if we’re not careful these reasons/excuses will bring us regret, which is the ultimate cost of not following our dreams. Here’s the top 5 reasons/excuses I frequently hear people say that cause them their dreams and the solutions for how to overcome them.
I would often find myself saying, “I just don’t have enough time to do the things I want to do, to follow my dreams, be a mom, finish college, etc.” But, honestly no matter what I did I never had enough time in a day to accomplish everything I wanted to. And, as a working mom, my time is always cut short lol. So, the solutions for me are time management and prioritization. I dedicate a certain amount of time to the things that will enable me to become closer to my dreams, errands, family, and fun. It’s all about having that balance. And, if you spend smaller increments of time over various obligations then you’ll find it’s easier to get more things accomplished.
2. The Financial Struggle
Ah, more money, more problems. No matter what I always have something to pay for, whether it’s bills or unplanned circumstances. So, I try to budget in as many areas as I can by eating out less, packing my lunches, buying k-cups and creamer instead of buying coffees all the time, thrifting and finding cost savings through discounts and coupons.
3. Not Enough Support
I often hear this from people who have little family support or think they can no longer follow their dreams because they have a child or children, but I beg to differ. I had my son while I was a junior in college and although it was harder on me and took slightly longer than expected I’m still doing it, with God, family, and friends on my side. I’m not saying it won’t be hard, but try to lean on your family as much as possible, and if that’s not an option look towards other support such as close friends, church family, and community support like your neighbors.
Let’s face it, we’re all afraid of something, even as adults. One of adults most common fears is failure. I was afraid to blog, hence one of the reason I was inconsistent. No one wants to fail, be ridiculed or humiliated for pursing their dream, and doing what they love the most. But, think of the successful people out there who were told no or that’d they would fail. If they listened to them or never went for it, they may not have ever made it. The worst thing that can happen is your current thoughts become a reality, but you’ll never know until you try. Just believe that whatever God has for you is for you, and that as long as you’re honoring him, he’ll make a way.
5. It’s Too Late
My favorite quote is, “It’s never too late to be what you might have been”, by George Eliot. This quote has stuck with me and I swear by it. If you’re alive and breathing it’s never too late to pursue and accomplish your dreams. It’s not too late, you’re not too old, it doesn’t matter anymore. You only live once, so make the most of it and do what truly makes you happy and follow your dream.
If we focus on all of these reasons/excuses we will never pursue our dream. And, not only will the cost be regret, but it will cost us our joy, passion, and maybe even our purpose. So, don’t sit idle, go for it! And, if not no one else encourages you to do so, I do.