Lifestyle · Motherhood

Time Well Spent: The Importance of Spending Time with Loved Ones

If you haven’t read before, I am not that great at time management. I’ve gotten better, but I haven’t quite mastered it yet. However, yesterday I took the time out to spend my day with my girlfriend whom I hadn’t seen in a while, and my son, and really appreciated the time we spent together. The three of us had lunch together and afterward my son and I went to the pumpkin patch together ( a few pictures posted throughout), and it was such an awesome time!

Honestly I probably should’ve been at home cleaning my house that was a complete wreck! I mean it looked like a tornado ran all up and through there! lol But, I was so glad that I decided to put everything else on hold to be with them. Unfortunately, with several deaths in my family this year and a few with major health concerns, it’s truly a blessing to be able to spend time with my loved ones. I know life gets busy with all the errands and daily chores we have, work, school, and all the other random things that come up and need our undivided attention. But, it’s so important to stop what we’re doing, get our faces out of the TV and social media, and leave the house looking crazy sometimes, so we can spend necessary quality time with our loved ones. Sometimes talking on the phone and being together running around getting stuff done isn’t enough. It’s important to spend time doing things that are enjoyable and fun together. So, here are a few reasons why I find QT (quality time) with our loved ones is so important:

 

  1. Self-Esteem Booster 

Maybe not for all over loved ones, but for I find this mostly applies to parents with children. For me having a shy child with anxiety requires me to spend a lot of time with him in order to build his self-esteem and security. dom and I Spending time with him helped and continues to help build his confidence level and social skills. Taking the time out to cheer him on in sports, to sit down with him and have conversations about how well he’s doing in school, etc., boosts his self-esteem, making it easier and less awkward for him to build relationships with his peers.  Just by spending quality time with him from an early age, I have noticed a drastic improvement over the last few years.

2. Memories

Memories are to be treasured and passed down to our children and generations to come and they are to valued. Unfortunately, as I previously mentioned I had a few deaths in my family this year and when their deaths happened, it made me think about all the memories we shared together. Those memories we created became 2x’s more important after they were gone. It made me think about all the good times and laughs we shared with the pictures to back them up and how those memories and time spent with them changed me as a person. I thought about the advice I was given, how it changed my perspective and perception, and how those people made me feel as a person. I’m thankful that I was able to share in those moments with them to pass them on and to others and discuss them over the holidays with our other loved ones. And, hopefully this will be a learned behavior that our children will pickup on and continue.

3. Connection

Spending time with our loved ones helps us to reconnect and/or build upon our existing relationships. When I reconnected and met up with my girlfriend whom I hadn’t seen in a while, it was a time to really talk about the things happening in our lives and share stories, ideas, and passions with one another. I feel like sometimes people may be more open when they’re doing things together or when you can just look into a person’s eyes and face and see true genuine emotion. Talking on the phone is a way of connecting but, talking to someone in person is much more personable. I find time with loved ones also helps parents connect with their children. With our children growing up so fast, it’s IMG_20171022_103921_614 (1).jpgimportant to spend time with them getting know their personalities, teaching them life lessons, sharing experiences, doing fun activities, and really using that time to expose our vulnerable sides and really open up wand express our emotions. For me, knowing that my mom took the time out to connect with me as a person and genuinely wanting to understand me, opened the door for me to go to her with a lot of personal issues I experienced growing up. I felt comfortable coming to her with uncomfortable topics because of the connection we had with one another. And, for our significant others, I also find it keeps the connection alive and popping! Spending time with our boo thangs helps our connection in all aspects of the relationship: physically, mentally, and emotionally. It’s important to take the time out to spend with them as well, to continue building a strong foundation for your relationship and family, and to keep one another happy.

4. Value

As a child I never really cared about the materialistic things my mom bought me. Instead, I was more concerned with the amount of time she spent with me doing my homework, taking me places, participating in activities like coloring and playing games, and her showing up when it mattered most like my dance recitals, girl scout performances, track meets, etc. I valued my mom’s time the most, especially because she was a single parent raising two little girls and was often short of it. Spending that time with me showed me how much she valued me and our mother-daughter relationship. Out of the million and one things she had going on, for her to stop and take the time for me, in spite of everything she had going on was important to me and really said a lot. Now, as my son grows up I make sure I take the time out to spend with him and my other loved ones to let them know I value them, our relationship, and care about their overall well-being enough to make time to see them.  And, I know some people may live long distance or further away and this may not always be feasible, but when possible we should make sure to get with the people we love, cherish, and value.

5. Stress Reliever

I don’t about any of you, but when my family members aren’t causing me stress their relieving it for me lol. Spending time with my loved ones helps to relieve some of my daily stress. For example, when I’ve had a long stressful day at work just the thought of coming home to my family, my son’s smiling face, and my dog who jumps up one me is enough to take away all the stress I had. Being with them allows me to be myself and be accepted no matter what. It’s nice to just spend time together laughing, eating dinner, and having an overall good time. When I’m doing that, I often forget about my problems or whatever was causing my stress.

So, there you have it. Spend time with your loved ones folks, because you never know when’s the last time you’ll get a chance to be with them. Every time you talk to them, tell them you love them and give them a hug and a kiss if you can. Cherish your time spent together and the memories you create, live for the moments you can’t put into words, and take as many pictures as you, for they are worth more than a thousand words!

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—This post is in memory of my dear uncle Kevin who passed away in August 2017,

We miss you so much and although we can no longer make memories together, we will cherish and honor the memories we had with you.

You can find more photos on my Instagram, feel free to follow me if you’d like,

Until then….Love Always,

B <3.

 

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