Hello loves! Welcome back to my blog and welcome if this is your first time here! Tomorrow is New Year’s Eve (NYE) and I am so excited to be entering yet another year. I have been off work on a staycation for almost 2 weeks, just taking time to really enjoy my family and spend time with my son. Since I’m a working mom, sometimes it’s hard to balance the time with him and all of my other responsibilities. Although, I’m excited about the achievements I’ve made this past year and for what’s to come this upcoming year, I’m also a little sad to be getting older and my son to be getting older, which is why it was so important for me to spend time with my loved ones for a few weeks. However, I’m looking forward to all the accomplishments, successes, and memories I will make it 2018. Like most people, every year I make New Years Resolutions of promises to myself regarding projects I’m going to work or goals I’m going to accomplish (some things I do, and some things I don’t), to better improve my quality of life or change and undesired trait or behavior.
Resolutions are great don’t get me wrong, because I believe it’s a good thing to write down your goals or place them in your memory bank as things to focus on. Unfortunately, the only thing I found about resolutions are that they’re often broken by most people. In my opinion, I think they’re goals are either too unrealistic or people aren’t holding themselves accountable. For example, a lot of people (including myself) have weight loss as a resolution which is great! There’s nothing like living and being healthy. But, for a mother who has a chaotic work schedule and a little boy who is involved in a variety of activities, what is your solution for attaining that goal? What are you going to do differently this year that you did last year, that will cause you to succeed? How are you going to hold yourself accountable this year? Therefore, I want to make New Years Solutions on how I am actually going to fix some of the problems/issues I’ve faced rather than make goals for myself. I thing it’s easier to make goals than it is to find solutions to achieve them. Therefore, I am going to share a few of the resolutions and solutions I have for attaining them on 2018.
- Weight Loss
- Move Up the Corporate Ladder
- Finish my Open-Ended Projects
- Improve the Quality of my Relationship
- Spend More Time with My Son
- Set Boundaries
Weight Loss-Every year for a little over 7 years now, well since I’ve had my son lol, I keep saying I’m going to drop this baby weight (lets be honest, it’s no longer baby weight, at this point because my son is borderline pushing a grown man). But, every year I have the same excuses that I’m too busy, It’s too hard to workout in the winter with the snow, It’s too hot to workout in the summertime, I don’t have anyone to watch my son while I workout, my work schedule is just too chaotic, I don’t have a workout buddy, I can’t afford a trainer, yadda yadda yadda. Excuses, excuses, excuses. I’ve made the same excuses for years and every year, I don’t hold myself accountable. Each year I end up in the gym the same new year, new me crowd and hit the gym heavy for maybe the first weeks and then die off. By time spring time comes, the gym is at it’s same normal crowd with maybe a few new faces. But this year, I’ve decided that I wasn’t going to weight for new years day and started a few days before. Since I’m strange about letting people watch my son and won’t take him to gym daycare (it’s not bad it’s just me) I decided I will do fitness activities where I can watch him or keep an eye on him, such as classes where I take Zumba. I printed schedules for two different facilities I attend and their class schedules, so on days my son has activities, I will do my ab, squat, and arm workouts at home, with the other days being cardio at classes, and saving weekend mornings for the gym when significant other is home. Now of course I’ll have to make sure I get there, but now there are no excuses as to why I can’t go.
Move Up the Corporate Ladder- This year I was promoted to management and became a supervisor, which I am still so thankful and grateful for! It was an amazing accomplishment for me, especially being in the company for only a little over a year. But, the team I inherited was basically in shambles when I received it, so I’ve been diligently working to change things around and make drastic improvements. This goal is a little harder to attain because promotions for myself aren’t in my control (trust me if they were I’d be a CEO or something). But, my plan is to make the most improvements I can that have a big impact on our team and my department, and highlight them in a way that will draw positive attention and recognition from my superiors. But, I do have a game plan!
Finish my Open-Ended Projects-So, usually when I’m not blogging and working on several other open-ended projects that I have. I just have so many dreams and goals I want to accomplish and I try to do so in short amounts of time that are just…unrealistic. And, I try to do all of them at the same time, as well as work and spend time with my family. This is just an unrealistic resolution, but my solution is to focus on one project at a time, which will then allow me to achieve my overall goal of finishing all of my open-ended projects. I know that by doing this, I can also focus more on my blog.
Improve the Quality of my Relationship-Honestly, I think my relationship is great. My significant other and I have been together for at least a decade, have a beautiful family, and great careers, but sometimes there’s more work life balance than us time because we’re always on the move. But, this year I intend to improve the quality of our relationship by having more us time, which includes placing dates on the calendar and making plans and sticking to them. And, to keep the unpredictability and spontaneity in them, we’ve agreed not to reveal what the dates are as long as it’s not something that one of us cannot stand or would agree to do lol.
Spend More Time with My Son-Because my son means the world to me and he’s already growing up so fast, I want to ensure I spend the most time I can with him. My solution to doing so is by spending less time doing unimportant things like watching television, playing in my phone, working extra long hours, and waking up late on weekends (waking up earlier in general). It doesn’t sound bad, but when I think about how much I probably waste doing these things, I also think about how much more time I could save and spend it better doing other things, like spending time with him. After all, he won’t be little forever, so I want to spend as much time as possible and cherish the little moments we have together. 🙂
Set Boundaries-And lastly, I will be setting boundaries with people. What I mean by that is sometimes people can feel like they are entitled to your help or time or any other thing you’ve provided in the past. But, I’ve found if you’re not careful sometimes they may not respect your boundaries, space, needs, or wants. In order to set boundaries, my solution is to be assertive and firm in expressing my expectations and clearly define boundaries with people such as work colleagues, family, friends, etc. I will say what I mean and mean what I say, but also let my actions speak louder than my words. When setting boundaries I also find you have to say it and follow-up with your actions.
Well, those are my new years resolutions and my solutions on how to accomplish them. For me, this year isn’t just about setting goals, but more so focusing on ways to fulfill them. So, I encourage you not just to make and set goals but also write down ways that will help you succeed in achieving them. Anyone can set a goal, but fulfilling it is so much harder. Then at the end of next year, it’s so much more rewarding to look back on how you achieved your goals. If you’d like to share, I’d love to hear one of your new years resolution and your solution to achieve it.